The Set-up

I hate when people try to set me up with someone they know, or their boyfriends friend/cousin and so on. The reason I hate it is because I never asked them to set me up to begin with. I'm not even one of those people who loudly lament my single status anymore, I learned my lesson years ago. If you don't want people giving unwanted advice, don't complain to begin with. So for the past 5 or so years I have pretty much kept my mouth shut on the dating front, but damn it people are nosey as hell and insist on sticking their noses in place I didn't ask them to, its annoying to say the least. Yesterday was the second time in a matter of a week that a friend suggested I date one of her friends. Now in my experience most people try to set you up with someone they themselves would be attracted to and aren't really giving any thought to whether you would want to date this person, I guess the thought goes that "he's a nice guy and I like him so my friend should too". My friend also admitted that she didn't know what my "type" was, well thats because I didn't tell you because I have no interest in being set up. The other reason I don't like the set up is because lets say you do go out with the guy and hey maybe your just not interested, well now all of a sudden your friend wants to know IN DETAIL what the problem is, whats wrong with him and so on. Lastly its kind of insulting that someone thinks I'm so pathetic that they need to find a guy for me, I hate being told what I "need" to do or how I should be living my life because thats what it chalks up to, "their is something wrong with you because you don't have a man and you aren't crying about that fact". This same friend is always telling me that I need a guy like this or like that. There are plenty of things I NEED before I need a man. I need a new job, more money, a new car, a new place, a trip to Europe.....also I need people to stop telling me I need a man.